How do we get my sista walking again?
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My sister has had this rare disease for about four years now. It basically attacked her muscles so that she got really weak and couldn’t walk and stuff. The disease is now under control, and we’ve been trying to get her to walk for over a year. She’s 15. My mum and dad have tried rewards, threats, bribes; everything. She even had a “Make-a-wish” from the Starlight Foundation. She’s doing Physio twice a week, and is supposed to be doing exercises, but she just won’t do them, and if my mum and dad try to talk to her, she basically shuts off. She won’t talk to ANYONE about it. I tried to talk my parents into rehab, but they’re concerned about any psychological effects it would have on her.
Any ideas, anyone?
Maybe she is depressed I would have her see a counselor….and get to the root of the problem
keep picking her up and dropping her, she’ll have to keep trying to catch herself with her legs. I can’t understand why anyone who lost the ability to walk and has a chance to walk again wouldn’t make that their #1 priority.
You don’t say how old your sister is…but anyway, it sounds like she is depressed and feeling hopeless. They could take her to a psychologist for therapy and if the doctor suggests, a mild antidepressant may get her out of her slump.
There are only two reasons why a person doesn’t do something:
1) She can’t; or
2) She can, but doesn’t want to.
In your sister’s case, reason number one apparently does not apply. So, guess which reason is left?
Obviously, your sister is seeing some advantages to not trying. It’s work, and she doesn’t want to do the work. Or, it is empowering to have other people get stuff for her and cater to her. Or, she doesn’t believe in herself enough to try, because she is too afraid of failing. Or, getting up to walk means that she will have to take more responsibility for herself in the future, and she is scared about that responsibility. Or maybe it’s something else.
But do you recognize the pattern here? All of these reasons are psychological rather than physical. And therefore the answer for her has to include pyschological counseling as well as physical therapy. Your parents need to talk with her doctors. There have to be therapists who specialize in cases like your sister’s.
If they do not get her the help she needs, she will ALWAYS be dependent. She will be dependent on your parents for as long as they live, and then she will be dependent on you. That is not fair to them, it is not fair to you, and most of all, it is not fair to your sister. She needs help, and they must get it for her. Good luck!!