How to get over the loss of a cat?
I am 18 and my cat was one month shy of turning 18 and i’ve had her my entire life, and she had Pancreatic paraneoplastic alopecia that we just discovered yesterday and the vet didnt know what it was untill she called some people. She was not just a cat to me she was my little girl and I was allways the one who took care of her and now that shes gone everything I look at I start crying and it takes alot for me to cry I am joining the Marines and I feel weak when I cry now. I have white fur all over my shirts and stuff and i see that and cry and theres still food sitting around and I dont know how to get over this. I feel like I cant take it anymore and it only happened yesterday. She was so healthy her whole life then she gets hit with one of the rarest diseases in cats and it started May 20th and she was put to sleep May 24th, its just heart braking. So if anyone has any ideas of ways to get over this or maybe a timeframe intill i will stop wanting to shoot myself would help me.
i am sorry about your loss. I think you should celebrate her life and not mourm the loss of it. take a walk by yourself and think about the great times you had. Just remember, she is always with you.
you are definitely not a wimp if you are going into the marines and you cry. It is a great asset to be sensitive! it shows you have compassion.
If seeing many of your cats old toys, hair etc, you should really hire or ask someone to clean your house for you. You shouldn’t have things that remind you of your loss.
I hope you continue to live on without your cat, even though it is dificult when it first happens.
God Bless you and your cat.
I am very sorry for your loss. My advice is to just cry until you can’t anymore. Then remember the good times. Then when the pain isn’t so much you may want to take a picture, a toy, a collar, food dish, etc and build a shrine. Sadly the pain will never really go away. I still miss my cat that died 6 years ago.
i lost my hanibul on the 26 of april , i miss him so badly and i have cryed every bay since. im crying now. i want to kill myself and be with him i just cant take the pain anymore.
My advice is to get a kitten that will love you and take some of the empty spot out of you.
sorry to read your loss, I can only say that be around friends, this will help a-little. But the best is to remember all the fun and good times that the two of you had.Pain over the loss of a loved friend is so hard, I lost my akita way to young and feel an understanding of what your in. take it one day and what to get another pet for awhile,you need to grive.It may sound hard but it’s part of life. take care and when time is right you’ll get another friend.
My cat was 15 when he died and I had had him since I was 6. He was always healthy and strong and whatever it was that took him did it fast. He spent 2 nights at the vet on an IV and the 3rd day the doc called me and told me it was time. He was such a little tropper up until the end. Trust me, it WILL get better. I had a t-shirt that I was wearing the day I put him to sleep and I slept with that t-shirt for weeks. I would cry at the drop of a hat (and still do if caught in a weak moment) over it. But time goes by and you just adjust. You’ll never forget, but you move on. I thought I’d never want another cat again b/c I didn’t think I could go through that again. But I have two now and I love them just as much as I loved Jack.
Don’t worry, you will get over it eventually. It just like a loss of a family member. For people that have pets consider them one of their family. So in short remember all the times you had together. There is no easy way to get over the loss of a pet/family member. You will, it will take some time. Soon enough, you might feel ready to get another cat.
I recently had to put one of my kittens to sleep. We had adopted him and his brother from our vets office around my birthday. Frankie was my little baby, he would follow me around everywhere I went, meowing and rubbing on my legs, he slept beside me everynight, and after my surgery (crohn’s disease) he would come cuddle up to me on the couch when I didn’t feel good. He started getting sick around the beginning of the year, and just got worse. Plus, the vet never did have a difinitive diagnosis for us, so I don’t even know if it was something I could fix or not b/c they didn’t know what it was. It got so bad, that we finally put him to sleep and that was the hardest decision I had ever made in my life. I cried more on that day than I think I ever have. It was truly heartbreaking, and I’m sorry to say that there is no real answer to your question. It takes different time for different people. Some people would suggest to get a new kitten, but I couldn’t have done that….it would have felt like a betrayl to me. I simply blogged about him on my myspace page, cuddled with his brother Sammy when he would let me, and donated money to the local animal shelter for vet care for their animals in Frankies name.
I am very sorry about the loss of your furry family memeber and I can definately relate. We put Frankie down in Feb. and I still cry sometimes when I see the other two cats playing (we had another cat, Olivia) and think how much he would have enjoyed the new toy or when I see his cat bed empty. Time is the only thing that I know that works, and I can’t tell you how much it will take for you…..if it helps, you can e-mail me stories and pictures….talking sometimes helps.
Here is a picture of my sweet Frankie:
Owning cats and dogs all my live you never get over it you just get stronger.we all miss our animals no matter who you are we are human and we no what love is it will be hard shore but you go on and cry there is nothing wrong with that.My cat was 18 too but you must remember that our 1 year ia 6 years to them.Life is never fair and it comes with No promises but we still have love that holds us together.take some time and get your lose out of your system your pet is in a better place and is in no pain for all animals also go to heaven.The church will say no but it’s in the good book.what I can tell you is for you to get a new pet and it will not be the same but you have a hart of gold and you love.never forget the old ones but in return help the new ones.I been in the army Ranger’s for 6 years and it doesn’t make you any less of a man to cry they all cryed when a love one is lost it’s the ones that don’t cry that scare me.P.S bad time to go in.and I hope you have it in you to kill a child that was my hardest part to do and that you’ll never forget.Now Marine go save a pets life your old one whats you too never know you might just find one that looks just like her.
I am so sorry for your loss. I can well remember the almost physical pain that is a broken heart. It must be especially hard for you as her illness was so unexpected. I wish I had wise words to ease your heartache, but it’s true that time really is the great healer. There is no time scale, everyone is different. Allow yourself time to mourn her loss, just as you would for any other family member. There will come a day when you can remember the happy times you shared together and you’ll be able to think about her without your heart aching. I know it doesn’t sound like it now,but believe me, Ive been in your situation as have many others out there.
Please don’t be embarrassed about how much you’re hurting right now. There’s no weakness in admitting that someone you loved dearly has died. If anything, it’s strength of character to be true to who you are. Do you have family members or good friends who you can talk to openly? It really does help to talk about your feelings instead of bottling them up.
If you’d like to create a memorial for her you can do so at the Rainbow Bridge web site. You can share your memories of her with other people.
I am truly sorry to hear about your loss. I lost my little Pomeranian a yr and a half ago. I’m still not really over loosing her but it has gotten better. She was 12 1/2 and died from a heart disease that cold not be treated. I got another dog which will never replace her but it sure has helped. I had her cremated because I live in Las Vegas but plan on moving back east and I did not want to bury her out here and leave her, I bought a beautiful butterfly urn for her, I also bought a glass cabinet with lights and turned it into a memorial cabinet for her. She sits on the top shelf on a crystal stand with her name on it. All of her pictures, toys and even her tooth brush and leash are in there. Everything that belonged to her is in that cabinet. I decorate it at holidays and talk to her all the time. I promise it will get easier for you. Just try to remember the good times with and her and thank God for letting you take care of her for 18 years. With joining the Marines that will keep you busy and your mind occupied. Good luck!
I am very sorry for your loss. This link may require tissues but I hope it helps
I lost my Blackberrie this year just after my birthday and a few weeks shy of him turning 17. I remember catching him as a little starving kitten when I was a little kid. He was the smartest, most loyal and obedient creature I have ever known. He passed away the day after he was diagnosed with kidney tumor, which was two weeks after he had gone from seeming completely normal and healthy to retaining fluids in his abdomen. I still cry occasionally, but I know that he had a pretty long, happy life, and that he knew how much I loved him.
You are incredibly sad now, because your girl was so precious to you, but you really should be proud of the fact that
you took such good care of her that she almost made it to 18. That is truly a good age. She had to be a very happy cat, and I’m sure she knew how much you loved her. Try to remember her in better times, it will help you remember how happy you made her.
Not too long ago I went and got a little memorial statue to put where he was buried, I found one that reminded me of him- sitting with closed eyes but a happy expression on its face, like a cat being petted. I’m not sure why, but getting that made me feel a lot better.
When I lost my first cat I cried daily for 3 months. It took about a year to get back to myself but it getting a new companion as soon as possible will help tremendously! Your new companion will never replace your first but you’ll be amazed at how much room you have in your heart to share with another.
Two things I did that helped w/my loss: 1) I wore her name tag from her collar on a necklace for a long time tucked into my shirt close to my heart and 2) I got on petloss.com and met others who felt the same way. Every Monday night you burn a candle in your beloved pet’s memory. Trust me, the first few times you do this you’ll cry but soon it’ll bring a smile to your face when you think of her and how happy both of you made it each other
I’m very sorry for you.
Unfortunately only time can heal this, and time WILL heal it. I know this doesn’t make it any easier, but your cat had a full life, you had lots of treasured moments with the cat. i wish you the best, and know you will find the inner strength to get through the time it takes to heal.